Sandra Confesses: “I’m a Facebook Flunky!”
June 17, 2009 | Written by admin
I have a confession to make. I'm a Facebook Failure. A Twitter Twit. And an out of place MySpacer.
I've had multiple conversations with editors and other agents who claim to love the socializing and staying in touch value of these social networks. And I realize there is some potential for developing business relationships and marketing opportunities. Personally, though, I've yet to commit.
I tried a few weeks ago to get on board. I really did. I set myself up on Facebook, including loading it up on my BlackBerry so I could be sure and let everyone know when I was heading off to the ladies room (ahem, in case you missed it, this is Sandra writing, not Chip), running to the post office, or taking a break to sneak up to the neighborhood coffee shop or walk the dog. I knew such information would keep folks absolutely riveted.
At first it seemed like a fun tool. An experiment. I like people, and I enjoy making new friends, so I jumped in, deciding it couldn't hurt to work on my water cooler skills.
But then, without provocation on my part I started receiving notes from
people I didn't know who wanted to "connect" with me and I realized
that my to do list and communication expectations had grown
exponentially. I know there's an underlying expectation that one doesn't have to accept all invitations, but I have to admit, I panicked. Seriously. I couldn't keep up with the requests, and hated, no, LOATHED, clicking decline.
So, I began avoiding it altogether.
And then recently I began wondering if people would think I'm some sort of snob or social misfit or something. And I began to wonder if it's strange that I prefer to "connect" with people face to face? That I'd rather save my words for meaningful exchanges? That maybe I live in my own head way, way, way too much? That I'm too focused on my to do list and not focused enough on daily chats with others? That I'm missing out on some grand opportunities to prime meaningful relationships? And that my career (and therefore that of my authors) would suffer if I don't get on the Social Network Train?
And then I panicked all over again.
It's not like me, really. I'm typically pretty poised and confident. Not too concerned about the whole rejection thing (good trait for an agent, eh?) and I don't worry too much what people think of me. But, the pressure of accepting or declining "friendships" on a daily basis has had me a little freaked out. Also, I know there is valuable info passed around on a daily basis that I miss out on here.
Still, today I decided it's just not for me. I'm not whining about too much to do and not enough time to connect. It's just not my style. Go ahead. Call me old fashioned. A social misfit. A bookworm. Whatever you must. Please though, don't consider me a snob — that's really not it.
In the end, for me, I've just decided if it's important I'll hear about it. And if I'm meant to connect with people, I will.
Sorry to disappoint everyone who has urged me to join the party. As yet, I'm just not convinced it's where I belong.